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ובועל בעילת מצוה ופורש, ונוהג שבעת ימי המשתה, ואחר כך נוהג שבעת ימי אבילות. וכל אותן הימים, הוא ישן בין האנשים והיא ישנה בין הנשים. ואין מונעין תכשיטין מן הכלה כל שלשים יום.
And the groom then has sex with the bride to fulfill the mitzva, and then he withdraws from his wife, and the corpse is buried. And the groom then observes the 7 days of the wedding feast, which are a personal festival for him, when the obligation of mourning rites does not take effect, and after that he observes the 7 days of mourning. And throughout those days of rejoicing and mourning, the groom sleeps among the men, and the bride sleeps among the women, and they are not permitted to enter into seclusion. And in the event of mourning, one does not withhold jewels from the bride for the entire 30-day period after the wedding, so that she not be undesirable to her husband.
ודוקא, אביו של חתן או אמה של כלה, דליכא איניש דטרח להו. אבל איפכא — לא.
And the wedding takes place and is followed by 7 days of feasting and 7 days of mourning, specifically if it is the father of the groom or the mother of the bride who died, as in that case there is no other person who would exert themselves for them. They are the ones responsible for the wedding preparations, and therefore the preparations that were completed must be utilized. However, if the opposite takes place, i.e., the mother of the groom or the father of the bride dies, no, the practice is different. The corpse is buried immediately, the 7-day mourning period is observed, and only afterward is the couple married.
אמר רפרם בר פפא אמר רב חסדא: לא שנו אלא שנתן מים על גבי בשר, אבל לא נתן מים על גבי בשר — מזדבן.
Rafram bar Pappa said that Rav Ḥisda said: A baraita states that they are married immediately only if one already placed water on the meat. In that case, it will be impossible to sell it to others, and if it is not cooked immediately it will spoil and a significant loss will be incurred, potentially resulting in cancellation of the wedding feast. However, if he did not place water on the meat, it can be sold. No significant loss will be incurred, so the mourning period need not be postponed.