Moed Katan 28B

מתני׳ נשים במועד מענות, אבל לא מטפחות. רבי ישמעאל אומר: הסמוכות למטה מטפחות.

Mishnah: On the intermediate days of a Festival women may wail in grief over the deceased, but they may not clap [metapeḥot] their hands in mourning. R' Yishmael says: Those who are close to the bier may clap.

בראשי חדשים, בחנוכה ובפורים ⁠— מענות ומטפחות, בזה וזה ⁠— לא מקוננות. נקבר המת ⁠— לא מענות ולא מטפחות.

On New Moons, Hanukkah and Purim, which are not Festivals by Torah law, the women may both wail and clap their hands in mourning. On both the intermediate days of a Festival and on New Moons, Hanukkah and Purim they may not Lamentations After the deceased has been buried they may neither wail nor clap.

איזהו עינוי ⁠— שכולן עונות כאחת, קינה ⁠— שאחת מדברת וכולן עונות אחריה, שנאמר: ״ולמדנה בנותיכם נהי ואשה רעותה קינה״.

The Mishnah explains: What is considered wailing? This is when they all wail together simultaneously. And what is considered a lament? This is when one speaks and they all answer after her with a repeated refrain, as it is stated: “And teach your daughters wailing and everyone her neighbor lamentation” (Jeremiah 9:19).

אבל לעתיד לבא הוא אומר ״בלע המות לנצח ומחה ה׳ אלהים דמעה מעל כל פנים וגו׳״.

In order to conclude on a positive note, the Mishnah says: But with regard to the future, the verse states: “He will destroy death forever; and YHWH, God, will wipe away tears from off all faces and the reproach of His people He will take away from off all the earth” (Isaiah 25:8).

גמ׳ מאי אמרן? אמר רב: ״ויי לאזלא, ויי לחבילא״.

Talmud: What do the women who wail over the dead say? Rav said: They say: Woe over him who is now departing; woe over him who is now returning the pledge, i.e., his soul, which had been deposited in his hands all the years of his life.