Ketubot 67B

שבאו לינשא ⁠— משיאין את היתומה ואחר כך משיאין את היתום, מפני שבושתה של אשה מרובה משל איש.

who have come to appeal to the charity fund to be married off, the administrators marry off the orphan girl first and afterward they marry off the orphan boy, because the humiliation of a woman who is not married is greater than that of an unmarried man.

תנו רבנן: יתום שבא לישא ⁠— שוכרין לו בית, ומציעין לו מטה וכל כלי תשמישו, ואחר כך משיאין לו אשה, שנאמר: ״די מחסורו אשר יחסר לו״. ״די מחסורו״⁠ — זה הבית, ״אשר יחסר״⁠ — זה מטה ושלחן, ״לו״⁠ — זו אשה. וכן הוא אומר: ״אעשה לו עזר כנגדו״.

A baraita states: Concerning an orphan boy who has come to marry, the community tries its utmost to provide for all of his needs. The charities rent a house for him, arrange for him a bed and all his utensils, and after that they marry him a wife, as it is stated: “But you should surely open your hand to him, and should surely lend him sufficient for his deficiency in that which is deficient for him” (Deuteronomy 15:8). With regard to the phrase “sufficient for his deficiency,” this is referring to the house. “Which is deficient”; this is referring to a bed and table. “For him [lo]”; this is referring to a wife. And similarly the verse states: “I will make him [lo] a helpmate for him” (Genesis 2:18), when God created a wife for Adam.

תנו רבנן: ״די מחסורו״⁠ — אתה מצווה עליו לפרנסו, ואי אתה מצווה עליו לעשרו. ״אשר יחסר לו״⁠ — אפילו סוס לרכוב עליו ועבד לרוץ לפניו. אמרו עליו על הלל הזקן שלקח לעני בן טובים אחד סוס לרכוב עליו ועבד לרוץ לפניו. פעם אחת לא מצא עבד לרוץ לפניו, ורץ לפניו שלשה מילין.

Concerning this issue, A baraita states: “Sufficient for his deficiency”; this teaches that you are commanded with respect to the pauper to support him, but you are not commanded with respect to him to make him wealthy, as the obligation encompasses only that which he lacks, as indicated by the word deficient. However, the verse also states: “Which is deficient for him”; this includes even a horse upon which to ride and a servant to run in front of him for the sake of his stature, if necessary. For someone accustomed to these advantages, their absences constitute a true deficiency, not an extravagant indulgence. The Talmud relates: They said about Hillel the Elder that he obtained for a poor person of noble descent a horse upon which to ride and a servant to run in front of him. One time he did not find a servant to run in front of him, and Hillel himself ran in front of him for 3 mil, to fulfill the dictate “which is deficient for him.”