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״תנו לי בעלי ואשמח עמו״. הכא נמי, נימא: ״תנו לי שושביני ואשמח עמו״!
Give me my husband and I will rejoice with him, i.e., it is not my fault that we are not getting married, she is not required to return the betrothal money. Here too, let him say: Give me my groomsman and I will rejoice with him.
אמר רב יוסף: הכא במאי עסקינן – כגון ששמח עמו שבעה ימי משתה, ולא הספיק לפורעו עד שמת.
Rav Yosef said: With what are we dealing here? Shmuel’s statement is referring to a case where the original recipient, in reciprocation, rejoiced with the brother who brought the gifts of groomsmen during the 7 days of the wedding feast, but did not suffice to repay him before the brother died. Since it was the usual practice to send the gifts of groomsmen after the groomsman rejoiced with the betrothed man for 7 days, he is obligated to reciprocate the gifts of groomsmen, and the yavam cannot claim them for himself.
לימא ״תנו לי בעלי ואשמח עמו״ – תנאי היא? דתניא: המארס את האשה; בתולה – גובה מאתים, ואלמנה – מנה. מקום שנהגו להחזיר קדושין – מחזירין, מקום שנהגו שלא להחזיר קדושין – אין מחזירין, דברי רבי נתן. רבי יהודה הנשיא אומר, באמת אמרו: מקום שנהגו להחזיר – מחזירין, מקום שנהגו שלא להחזיר – אין מחזירין.
The Talmud suggests: should we say that Shmuel’s statement that a betrothed woman can claim: Give me my husband and I will rejoice with him, is a dispute between tanna’im? As it is taught in a baraita: With regard to one who betrothed a woman and then he divorces her or dies, if she is a virgin, she collects 200 dinars in payment of her marriage contract. And if she is a widow, she collects 100 dinars. In a place where people were accustomed to return the betrothal money when the betrothed man or woman died, they return it. In a place where people were accustomed not to return the betrothal money, they do not return it. This is the statement of R' Natan. R' Yehuda HaNasi says: Actually they said: In a place where people were accustomed to return it, they return it; in a place where people were accustomed not to return it, they do not return it.
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